Dear reader, I am preparing to “teach” an English class to my cousins and I am first preparing a language learning masterclass and I am finally ready to talk about my own language learning experience and tips I used learning my second language and how my language learning experience has evolved now that I study 2 languages (Latin & Italian for fun)..
I’ve been bilingual for about 17 years now. English is technically my second language, but at this point, it feels like my first. Still, for the longest time, I refused to say I was fluent. I could speak, yes — but to me, fluency meant ownership. It meant feeling the language in your bones, not just in your mouth. And until I knew I had it like that, I wouldn’t claim it. I’m picky that way. When I say I know something, I want to know it — not pretend or stretch the truth like so many do.
🌌 Language Learning Is Like Wandering a Dark Forest
Here’s a metaphor that lives in my bones: Learning a language is like getting lost in a forest at night. There’s no moon. No stars. You keep walking. You don’t understand anything, not even one thing, and you’re bumping into trees. But you keep going. You don’t judge the process. You trust the forest.
And eventually, you start to see shapes in the dark. You notice a path. You recognize a tree you’ve seen before. One day, you look up, and there’s light.
That’s what language learning has felt like for me over and over again. And I’ve learned that judgment kills curiosity, and curiosity is the magic fuel for all language acquisition.
🔄 Inputs and Outputs: The Secret Cycle
Language input is what you take in reading, listening, absorbing. Output is what you give speaking, writing, translating, teaching.
I’ve learned that when you teach, you learn twice. I’m learning Italian and Latin right now, but I’m also teaching English and, in the process, I’m learning how to learn. And that’s powerful. That’s what I want to pass on.
🧠 Can You Forget Your Native Language?
Yes. I did, a little. When I became completely immersed in English, my Spanish started to fade, not fully, but the recall slowed down. And I used to think that if you learned something well, you’d never forget it. But I’ve changed my mind.
You have to use what you’ve learned to keep it alive. That’s why I only listen to music in Spanish, read in Spanish, and finally, I started writing in Spanish daily, remembering started happening once again and I am once more able than most in my Spanish because as an adult I desire to know more Spanish, I have the tools, I have the outputs and then I read them over and over again and the learning doubles.
✨ Final Thought: Use Your Original Gifts
Whatever your strength is in your first language, use it to unlock your second. I was good at reading and writing in Spanish, so I used those same gifts in English. Don’t try to become someone else just to learn a language. Bring you with you.
You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be present. You need to love the process. You need to stop judging your progress. Because the language will meet you in the forest, and you will find your way out, fluent, radiant, transformed.
Love,
Eve Sánchez
Poetess | Language Student for Life
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